2013 Valentines letter to YOU

Dear You,

Remember when I told you last year that I'd write you a letter every Valentines? Well I remembered that promise. I am a person who keeps her promises. When I know I can't, I don't. Most probably because I myself, don't like it when people get my hopes up and don't see them through.

To be honest though, I didn't feel like writing one. Then again, I've been learning that commitments should not be based on my feelings alone. That I want to be a woman who is able to put to the plate what she said she would.

The past few days, God has dealt with me in many areas of love. One of which is to love without keeping any record of wrongs. A few days ago, I hurt a person I love most in this world, because of something I remembered growing up. I really thought I knew how to love but learned through that experience that I didn't. At least not by Jesus' standards.

This day started extremely well. Today, as I got ready to drive my sisters to school, I told them "If someone wants to give you something, it's okay to accept it and to bring it home. You don't have to hide it and don't forget to say thank you." I guess from this conversation, I'm learning that the key to any relationship specially with children is to keep communication lines open. Let them know what is acceptable according to your faith and   family values.

For my sisters I learned that as their Ate, I want to establish 1. Trust 2. Openness 3. Honesty 4. Gratitude. I want them to know that they can TRUST me that I will not scold them, I won't nag, I will listen but in return they also have to trust that I will always have their best intentions and if I do have to point some things out, it will always be (I hope) for their own good. I want to let them know that they can be open to me and that honesty would always be highly favored, plus even if they lie; I have means in uncovering the truth. HAHA. I want them to know that in everything, give thanks specially when they're blessings. I guess these are little things. These are things that we are taught in Kindergarten yet as we grow older, we are forced to devalue.